I think your story is interesting, and I realize now that I am guilty of doing something similar. I have used tinder before and met up with someone who turned out to be very very photogenic. Now, to clarify I’m not a superficial person, I was happy to still go out and at least have a nice evening together. But we had conflicting vibes. There is just something there that can only be sensed in person, and not on through carefully constructed online conversation. Her and I weren’t even compatible on a plutonic level.
I excused myself to the restroom at one point and texted my friend to call me in 5 minutes with an “emergency” so I could leave. He did call, with a “flat tire” and I dropped her off back at her house soon after.

I felt bad at first, but I think I handled it well. I was far from rude in person an apologetic for the timing of this “emergency”.

I suppose there is a human quality of connection that is a complete variable until you are face to face. And even in the most detached sexual desires that could drive people to meet, there is a certain compatibility that goes far deeper than any online profile can represent.